We work hard and long to get the jobs we want and before we know it the job we sought so hard is in charge of us! You also have to put up with unreasonable expectations and a national epidemic of unreasonable working expectations. Put an unreasonable boss or colleague or office environment on top of that and you’re building a recipe for a very personal disaster.
Skills can help.
Time management, ( I call it Productivity Mastery ) delegation, planning and organisation strategies for working smarter rather harder, but to do this well you need to step to one side decide what to
Attitude certainly helps.
If you’re too much into doing your work rather than working on how to work better then perhaps you need to think about your attitude. What is stoping you taking charge? What other people will say? What you believe about work? But if you’re reading this you know that there is something more to think about. If you want something different then you have to do something different to make changes.
A sustainable career.
Sustainable simply means that your life and work are in balance. You’ve thought about your real priorities and values and you’ve made changes in your attitudes, your practices and your personal boundaries.
Learn to say NO
Being unable to say no to unreasonable demands whether from above or below is one of the first and most important steps you’ll need to do. You’ll need to be able to say no to yourself, no to your managers and no to your teams and colleagues. Then you’ll notice how much other people are prepared to say no as well. Every time someone brings you something that wasn’t yours they’re actually saying no and up until now you’ve been saying yes OK of course I’ll do it even though its not my problem. So you’re going to learn to say No in many different ways. You may need to learn to be much more assertive and be prepared to set out your boundaries and defend them. Then you’ll see how much more respect you get.
What’s your priority?
You’ll look at what your real priorities are for you first then those close to you and from that you can begin to look at how to move to amore sustainable and rewarding relationship with work – hey and guess what – you’ll be doing a much much better job as a result. You’ll be more productive. You’ll be a better role model at home and at work. You’ll start to take your health and well being seriously. You will be in charge and able to choose where and when you are going to place your energies. You’ll have better relationships and you can look forward to doing things for yourself so you can give back more to others.
When was the last time you placed your essential well being at the core of planning your week?
Consultation First we’ll look at your immediate physical, mental and emotional well being and plan any immediate action you may need to take. Then we’ll scope out the areas you want to work on and you’ll go and keep a diary or record your work issues.
This type of intervention typically lasts a number of sessions but will bring great changes for you
- Dealing with unreasonable demands
- Prioritising your key life focus
- Learning to say No to yourself and others
- Uncovering limiting beliefs
- Making immediate changes
- Behaviour experiments
- Putting yourself first
- Building a plan and then reviewing it over time
Many clients say that the initial consultation is a great experience in itself as its the first time they have been honest with themselves and able to talk to someone else about their personal situation – being herd and taken seriously lifts a huge weight from their shoulders.